It is important that we provide support while maintaining an understanding of their developmental stage. If our expectations do not align with their capabilities or grasp of concepts, it can result in frustration and tears for everyone involved. It can be helpful to remind ourselves that children have not been in this world for very long. A child's impulses to act or speak differ significantly from those of adults. Well-intentioned adults can often interpret children's motivations based on their own emotions, wants, and desires.
 

Observing children provides valuable insights. By watching what is happening without judgment, we can see what they are curious about. For instance, when a baby slowly crawls up to another baby, reaching out to grab their hair or skin, it might stem from curiosity and wonder. How many other babies have they seen or touched?  What happens if they touch them?  What does a smile, a giggle or a cry mean?  What do these big people do in response?


Opportunities for cooperative play arise when we are mindful of the setting, the type of play, and the children's skill levels. Reflecting on our own comfort level, the kind of day we're having, and our understanding of our child and their peers can build our capacity to support our child as they learn about the intricate give and take of cooperation. 

Play & Learn At Home

Here are some things you can do to support cooperative play at home:

Involve them in everyday household tasks. Participating in things like washing, cleaning, and setting the table helps them feel grown-up and fosters kindness and care for others.

Encourage building together with other children. Working together on projects like stacking blocks or building towers involves negotiation and teamwork. 

Play ball together! Roll the ball to your child and give them the opportunity to roll it back to you. This is a simple, fun way to illicit giggles and encourage back and forth play. 

Looking for more inspiration at home? We love these resources:

Key to understanding your child:
https://www.naeyc.org/our-work/families/observation-key-to-understanding-your-child

Tips on helping your child learn to cooperate:
https://www.zerotothree.org/resource/tips-on-helping-your-child-learn-to-cooperate/